When ‘Maybe’ Became His Only Answer, I Knew I Needed Help

Every time I brought up our future, he would deflect. A casual “Let’s see” or “Not now” became the default response. At first, I thought it was his way of avoiding pressure. But as the years passed, I realized that every “maybe” he gave me was another nail in the coffin of my self-esteem.

I had been with him for five years. Five long years of birthdays, festivals, and vacations together. Five years of believing we were building something real. But any time I asked, “What’s next for us?” it was like setting off a landmine.

Our arguments always ended with him saying I was too pushy, too demanding. And maybe he was right—maybe I was asking for too much.

The tipping point came during my cousin’s wedding. I watched them exchange vows while he stood next to me, scrolling through his phone. That night, when I brought up how the wedding had made me think about us, his response was, “Why do you always have to ruin a good evening?”

I spent the next three nights crying, questioning myself. Why was it so hard to talk to him about commitment? Was I being unreasonable? I felt like I was living two lives—one pretending everything was fine, and another suffocating under the weight of his indifference.

A friend of mine had once mentioned Sudha Shastri in passing. “She doesn’t just help people solve problems,” she said, “She helps them understand the why behind those problems.”

I was skeptical. How could someone sitting miles away in another city possibly understand the mess that was my life? But as days turned into weeks and the silence between he and me grew heavier, I decided to give it a shot.

I reached out to Sudha shastri’s team. They responded with warmth and patience—something I hadn’t felt in my relationship in a long time.

The First Session: Why It Felt Like Therapy for My Soul
When I spoke to Sudha ji, I expected advice. What I got was a mirror. She asked me things no one ever had:

“Why are you carrying the weight of this relationship alone?”
“What makes you believe you’re asking for too much?”
“If love feels heavy, is it still love?”

Her words hit me like a gentle storm. I realized I had been justifying his avoidance for years, telling myself he needed more time, more space, more understanding. What I hadn’t asked was: what about me?

Sudha ji didn’t tell me to leave him or to stay with him. What she did was help me unlearn years of conditioning. As a woman raised in a traditional family, I had been taught that patience and compromise were the cornerstones of a good relationship. But Sudha ji made me see that patience isn’t the same as self-sacrifice, and compromise doesn’t mean giving up your self-worth.

Through her guidance, I began to notice the patterns in our relationship—the ways in which I had minimized my needs, brushed off my hurt, and made excuses for his behavior. It wasn’t just about him being non-committal; it was about me being too afraid to demand more.

The Turning Point: A Ritual of Reconnection
Sudha ji suggested a spiritual practice tailored to my situation. It wasn’t just about mending the relationship—it was about reconnecting with myself. The ritual involved daily affirmations, visualization exercises, and a practice she called “energetic detachment.”

The goal wasn’t to push him to change. It was to release the emotional grip I had on him and refocus that energy on myself.

Over time, something shifted in me. I stopped walking on eggshells around him. I stopped waiting for him to make the first move. I stopped equating his hesitation with my worth.

Interestingly, as I grew stronger, he began to change too. He started showing up in small but meaningful ways—texting me first, planning dates, even bringing up topics we’d always avoided, like our future.

But here’s the thing: by the time he started to change, I had already changed.

The Biggest Lesson
Sudha ji didn’t just help me navigate my relationship—she helped me redefine what I deserved. I realized I had been holding on to someone who wasn’t ready because I wasn’t ready to let go of my fear of being alone.

Today, he and I are still together, but it’s different. I’m no longer waiting for him to choose me—I’ve already chosen myself.

For Anyone Who Feels Stuck
If you’re reading this and feel like you’re drowning in the uncertainty of someone else’s decisions, let me tell you: there’s a way out. And it doesn’t start with them—it starts with you.

Sudha Shastri’s guidance gave me the clarity and strength I needed to stop fighting alone. Whether your partner changes or not, you deserve peace, love, and certainty in your life.